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Shabbat shalom friends,

I think, like me, you have noticed that school holidays are in full swing. It seems to take half the time to get anywhere in the mornings and late afternoon. Melbourne has certainly quietened down. Yet, exciting things are still happening at TBI! This Friday night will be very special as we combine our regular Kabbalat Shabbat Services with our Family Shabbat Services. We are doing this to give a heartfelt goodbye to Ari Sharfstein, our Music Fellow over the last year. Ari is returning to the US to study a Masters in Music Education. We have been so very blessed to have had Ari over the last year and share in his talent, his warmth and his passion for Jewish music, services and education. We will miss Ari's warm smile and genuinely kind demeanour around our shule.
In this week's parashah, Chukat, we learn about Aaron's death. Death affects us all in different ways. Jewishly, we respond to a loss in a very particular way. We bury our loved ones as quickly as possible, we perform taharah (ritual washing), we have a funeral service and then sit shiva with minyanim & observe the shloshim. Importantly, when we see a mourner, we are not to offer platitudes, but wait for them to speak to us. If we say something, we greet each other with simple words such as "Auf Simchas", may we see each other only in times of joy, or "I wish you a long life". The silence is so important, especially in the face of tragedy. There are no words to comfort a mourner who suffers loss. The best we can do is be present, bring a meal, or to sit in silence. What could we say to Moses when Aaron died?
This week our Jewish world has been affected by tragic grief. Rabbi Danny Freelander, the President of the World Union for Progressive Judaism who was here last November for the UPJ Biennial, and his wife Rabbi Elyse Frishman suffered a tragic loss. Their daughter, Devra Freelander was killed in Brooklyn in a bicycle and truck accident. When we lose an aged parent, we may mourn deeply, but I cannot even begin to understand what it means to mourn a child or a young person. All we can do is mourn and cry with Danny and Elyse and their families, and also with our own families who have suffered a loss.

As a rabbi, I have a unique role with families, I'm there for happy occasions such as baby namings and weddings, but also in the sad moments. But one of the most impressionable and meaningful moments is when I see families and communities come together to support one another.

Let us do just that this Shabbat. Let us think of, and act on, how to love our families a little more and how we can support each other in both sad and joyous moments.   
This Friday is Ari's final Bubs & Bagels at 10am. Join us as well farewell Ari and thank him for such a wonderful year. We also welcome TBI member Natalie Stone who will with be continuing on with Bubs & Bagels and Tot Shabbat!

Join us on Friday for Kabbalat Shabbat & combined Family Service at 6:15pm. This will be Ari's last Shabbat service at TBI. Come and wish him a fond farewell.

Shacharit Shabbat service starts at Saturday morning at 10am, featuring the magnificent voices of the Ruach community choir.

****Changes to Emmy Monash Services****

Kabbalat Shabbat Services at Emmy Monash has changed and will now be on the 2nd and 4th Friday of the month.  The next services will be on July 12 and 26 at the usual start time of 4.15pm.  

Rosh Chodesh
7pm, Sunday 7th July

TBI’s Rosh Chodesh women’s group meets on the first Sunday every month in a private home at 7.30pm. This month's topic is: Jewish Divorce.
If you’d like to join, please RSVP and we’ll send you the location and more details.
Shir Chadash

Join Cantor Michel Laloum and Ari Sharfstein in song for a fantastic musical Shabbat retreat in Geelong. The Shir Chadash UPJ conference will include sessions on music strategies to use our new machzor, Mishkan T’shuvah, choral and song-leading workshops, vocal and guitar coaching, as well as the interplay between niggun and mystical texts.
12-14th July 2019
Learn More

Hineinu - Kabbalat Shabbat service
6pm Friday 19th July

An alternative Kallablat Shabbat and Maariv experience, providing an opportunity for personal and communal prayer in a tranquil & invigorating setting. Lay-led by Patrick Prunster and Elizabeth Riordan.
Next Dor Mid-Winter Games Night Pyjama Party.
7.30pm Friday 19th July

For those in their 20s and 30s, Next Dor is hosting a Mid-Winter Games Night Pyjama Party, following Hineinu.

Hang out with us, warm and cosy in your favourite PJs or onesies, with a selection of board games to play.
We’ll be enjoying matzah ball soup and hot chocolate too!
Happy Birthday to:

Gaby Cohen, Anna Cowen, George Klempfner, Ellen Kolsky, Harry Krane, Maria Lewit, Eva Marks, Sam Moshinsky, Helen Sher & Alex Starr.
Happy Anniversary to:

Michelle Lewit and James Lee
Nathan and Marian Orbach
Emile and Kathy Rochman
Joe Shneider OAM and Eve Shneider
This year, like last year, TBI will be producing our Book of Remembrance to help us recall and honour our loved ones during the Yizkor service on Yom Kippur.
In keeping with this tradition, it is customary to recall our loved ones’ names at times of mourning, and to keep them at the forefront of our hearts and minds. When we write down their names their lives continue to have a significant place in our world, even though they are physically no longer with us.
We encourage you to continue this tradition, and to fulfil the mitzvah of remembering by completing and returning the form by 12 August 2019 to ensure the inclusion of your loved ones’ names in the TBI Book of Remembrance.
This book will be distributed prior to the TBI Yizkor service on Yom Kippur, Wednesday 9 October 2019.

If you have any questions about the Book of Remembrance, please email us.
Mishkan T'shuvah, our new machzor for the High Holy Days are nearly here. There are limited quantities available for sale in the office. Order your set today, or sponsor a set for the community. $80 per set.

Look out for special opportunities to learn about the Machzor in August & September during Lunch 'n Learn.

For more information, call 9510 1488 or email:
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Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Kim Ettlinger
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