Please do not mark our newsletter as spam.  You're receiving this email because you have expressed an interest in Community Unitarian Universalist Church. We never add names to our list without permission.  Please add to your address book so our emails go to your inbox!  


November 2019

CUUC's phone number is:

(386) 308-8080
A Month of Sundays
November 3rd

Kathi Smith
"Green Burials"
"Green Burials" was inspired by reading Caitlin Marie Doughty's book
"From Here to Eternity; Traveling the World to Find the Good Death."   The book
chronicles the travels of this American mortician, author, blogger, and YouTube
personality to see first hand death customs in many countries including the U.S.  
Ms. Doughty is well-known for advocating death acceptance and the reform of
Western funeral industry practices. We all need to take responsibility for making
our burial arrangements, and Ms. Doughty encourages us to take the time to do
research, understand options, and to make plans as an ordinary part of life.
 Did you know although cremation is more eco-friendly than burial, cremations
release greenhouse gases in the atmosphere and ashes can contaminate
the soil?  Learn about alternative burial options to include conservation
cemeteries.  Kathi Smith will conduct this service and the topic will be presented
in an informative, entertaining way.    

Special Offering:  Building Fund Sunday

November 10th

Donald Musser
Rant and Rage:  Is Payback the Solution to Our Anger?

Anger M/management is both the name of a film
and an embarrassing set of meetings with a counselor that some
of us have endured.  What exactly is anger?  What causes it?
 Why do we suddenly explode into an ogre/ogress?  Can
anger be managed?  If so, how?  Let us think together
on these questions.
Service Leader: Nancy McCormick
Special Offering: Scholarship Sunday

November 17th

Rev. Dikki Jo Mullen
"Esoteric Thanksgiving"

Service Leader: Shawn Capers
Special Offering: HUM Sunday

November 24th
Mark Spivey
"Do Unto Others"
 A passage rooted in WHY give anything to anything
ever got started in the first place.  

Service Leader: Audrey Barcelo
Return your "Guest at Our Table" boxes
Bring Non-perishable items for HUM 

Services Sundays @ 10:30
Community Unitarian Universalist Church
403 West Street
New Smyrna Beach, FL  32168


Looking Ahead to November 2019

December 1st

Donald Musser
December 8th

Donald Musser'

December 15th

Audrey Barcelo
"Liberalism and Conservatism"
December 22nd

Joe Wolfarth
"History of Christmas Hymns"

December 29th

Laura Chilkott
"Fannie Farmer:  19th Century Unitarian Kitchen Revolutionary


Upcoming Events
November 1st -Fridays for the Future
Volusia Climate Action
Meet at the corner of 44 & Wallace 
(affectionately known as Walt's corner)
New Smyrna Beach

November 5th 
Dream Circle 

7 p.m.
Location: Church Sanctuary
403 West Street NSB

November 6th
Book Club
""Beneath a Ruthless Sun" by Gilbert King
Location: Church Sanctuary
403 West Street NSB

November 8th -Fridays for the Future
Volusia Climate Action
Meet at the corner of 44 & Wallace 
(affectionately known as Walt's corner)
New Smyrna Beach

November 10th 
Drum Circle 

6 p.m.
Location: Church Sanctuary
403 West Street NSB
Bring a chair, a drum and some bug spray.  We have
some percussion instruments to share.

November 13th
CUUC Board Meeting
All are welcome
Location: Church Sanctuary
403 West Street NSB

November 15th -Fridays for the Future
Volusia Climate Action
Meet at the corner of 44 & Wallace 
(affectionately known as Walt's corner)
New Smyrna Beach

November 17th
Chess Club
All are welcome
3:00-when finished
Location: Church Sanctuary
403 West Street NSB

November 19th
Dream Circle 

7 p.m.
Location: Church Sanctuary
403 West Street NSB

November 22nd-Fridays for the Future
Volusia Climate Action
Meet at the corner of 44 & Wallace 
(affectionately known as Walt's corner)
New Smyrna Beach

November 29th -Fridays for the Future
Volusia Climate Action
Meet at the corner of 44 & Wallace 
(affectionately known as Walt's corner)
New Smyrna Beach

***For the most up to date information on events, please check the calendar on
our webpage- or

Upcoming Birthdays

November 22nd- Anna Grainger
November 23rd- Libby Hildebrandt

December 1st- Kermit Hunnicutt
December 6th- Victor Brisebois
December 7th- Shawn Capers
December 21st-  Mark Moehring
December 29th-  Rosa Lake
President's Message

I Love Autumn! The changing seasonal colors were a highlight of my
experience of living in Minnesota in the mid to late 1990s, since the Twin
Cities are full of deciduous trees which glow and shine and shimmer, dropping their glorious
leaves everywhere...

At this time of year we anticipate joyful celebrations with those we love and each of us
gets opportunities to let our "inner child" out to play... at our Dream Circle Group Meeting
not long ago I was asked what I meant by the term, "Inner Child" - and I replied that as
a Capricorn I firmly believe my own "inner child" is growing stronger and more Alive as my
body ages; I become ever more grateful for the simple Joys of my existence...
I also believe that we are shaped by pain as well as joy, and the things that hurt us
when we were too young to change the outcome of situations in our lives can leave
"ghosts" that we must face down as adults, if we don't want fear to control us. This is one
reason I believe that movies and plays about the experiences of children sometimes
affect me deeply.

During the time I lived in Minneapolis I attended a play at the Minnesota History Center
in St. Paul which depicted riders on an "Orphan Train" - inspired by real life events... In the late
19th and early 20th Centuries, orphanages in New York City and other densely populated
areas in the Eastern Seaboard region, overflowing with children, would send groups of orphans
Westward across the continent. "Minders" and chaperones were sent to accompany these needy
children, who were lined up to be inspected and perhaps chosen for adoption by would-be
'parents' at train stations across our nation. Many "Socialist" laws that exist today to protect the
rights and welfare of children or which created government agencies tasked with overseeing the
care and treatment of children and adolescents were first drafted during this period in history -
perhaps partly in response to the abuses some orphans endured when they could be acquired
like "Free Kittens" (by anyone who expressed interest and promised to care for a child.) Orphans
were often torn apart from their siblings, sometimes forever.

Some years ago (while working at Books-a-Million) I discovered a children's book written by a man
who had been an orphan on such a train. His father, an immigrant and widower in New York City,
had been unable to provide for his several children and had brought them to an orphanage there,
promising to keep in touch and return for them someday. The boy's only way to contact his father
was an address written in a note he'd put in his jacket pocket. During the train journey the note
disappeared after the boy obediently hung the jacket on a hook (he would always suspect his
chaperone of removing it). Crying bitterly when he discovered the note was missing, he knew he'd
never see his father again. Little did he imagine that the journey would result in his being separated
from his siblings as well (though one day he would reconnect with a long-lost brother)... This man
described his foster parents as kindly, and stated he knew that other children were not so lucky.
As an adult he enlisted in the U.S. military and served our nation in wartime. He described the life
he had made for himself as satisfying in spite of the hole in his heart created when he was cut off
from his family of origin.

Recently I watched [Again! I own the DVD] a movie entitled, "What Maisie Knew" - based on a novel
written at the end of the 19th century. It's the story of a young girl, Maisie, whose parents split up in a
dramatic fashion, which leads to a court awarding divided custody of the child. The author of this book
was Henry James, who contrasted bold, innovative ideas from the United States (like divorces with split
custody agreements) with the staid traditions of Europe. The innovation in this novel was portraying the
storyline from the point of view of its titular character. Henry James' secretary, Theodora Bosanquet,
said this of her boss: "When he walked out of his study and looked around him, he saw a place of
torment, where creatures of prey perpetually thrust their claws into the quivering flesh of doomed,
defenseless children of the light... His novels are a repeated exposure of this wickedness... a reiterated...
passionate plea... for the fullest freedom of development... unimperiled by reckless... barbarous stupidity."

The makers of the 2013 film version of "What Maisie Knew" decided to update the storyline to
present-day Manhattan, realizing that its message had lost no relevance over time. They discovered
that a movie about the emotional life of a child in trying circumstances was a difficult project to "sell."
Since the character of Maisie has wealthy parents, one could cry, "Boo-Hoo! Poor little rich girl!" But
the poignancy of this character study redeems the effort, for me. In a climactic scene, she is surrounded
by angry adults, witnessing the emotional fallout caused by her parents' separation, looking more "lost"
than ever despite the evident intentions of said adults to protect and care for her. 

When I look at the faces of the children my own nieces and nephews are raising today (shared by
their loving parents and grandparents on FaceBook, typically) I don't have to worry whether they have
enough to eat or proper clothes and things for school. I look for Joy in their faces. When the love
that is surrounding them is apparent, I am deeply moved.

What I believe about Unitarian Universalists is that our faith compels us to seek justice in a world
where descriptions of "Predators seeking Prey" fit far too many people in far too many situations.
We MUST Change the World, because it's the only one we've got. I want EVERY CHILD to smile
as widely as the ones in my own family.

In the foyer of our church, as you linger in appreciation of the beautiful new Flooring installed by
Jay Gadbaw (son of CUUC Founding Member Pat Gadbaw) you may find easily assembled boxes
labelled, "Guest At Our Table" which act like "piggy banks" to be filled with coins [or paper money]
by anyone who wishes to take one home and put it to use. These boxes are to be collected on
Sunday, November 24th; the funds inside will be forwarded to the Unitarian Universalist Service
Committee - which gathers donations to help folks around the world who are in need [they
spearheaded a collection effort to aid survivors of Hurricane Dorian in the Bahamas recently,
aided by our own church's contributions]... Please Give what you can. Let's help heal a hurting
world, and put smiles on the faces of people in need. Let's share the bounty and Joy of our lives
with others. 


Joe Wolfarth
President, CUUC Board
Dinners for Eight
 CUUC has started an activity for its members and friends called “Dinner for
Eight”.  Our first two hostess for an evening were Audrey Barcelo and Rosa L
it as a great way to enjoy a social evening with your fellow UU’s.   Look for other opportunities to sign up for this intimate night of food and good conversation.

 Here’s how it works:      
    You may choose to host a dinner at your home, by yourself or with another member
as co-host.  As hosts you decide how many folks you can accommodate, 4, 6, or 8.
   You plan the menu and post it for the congregation to view.  The host or co-hosts will
prepare the entire meal.

    As a guest, you sign up for the menu of your choice.  Guests will pay a pre-
determined price to attend the dinner, all proceeds going to the church.
You get to enjoy a great meal, and you get to share it with your church friends.  What
could be more fun?  We plan to have only a couple of dinners per quarter.  

Moms Demand Action

Charlotte St. John, Kathi Smith, Barbara Mars and Lou Giammatteo are flanked by two
supporters of "MOMS DEMAND ACTION".  On Wednesday, September 11th, they
joined a dozen others for a meeting at the NSB library.  Volusia Spokesperson Rosemary.
Walker led the discussion on the crisis of gun violence in the USA.  Did you know that in
August 2019, there were 31 mass shootings and 60  youth suicides by guns. They are looking to
continue and support  the  multiple local and national efforts such as the Parkland
High School Teens that organized the big march in Washington, DC last year.  The
biggest push is for national ,universal background checks for gun purchases.  
Their focus is on the "Be Smart" which is a framework designed to help parents and
adults normalize conversations about gun safety and take responsible actions that
can prevent child gun deaths and injuries.

S-Secure Guns in your homes or vehicles
M-Model responsible behavior around guns
A-Ask about the presence of unsecured guns in other homes
R-Recognize the role of guns in suicide
T-Tell your family and friends to "BE SMART!"

As a result of more than 5 million MOMS DEMAND ACTION supporter, more money was raised for their cause than the NRA!  January 23rd will be MOMS day in Tallahassee.  Come join the group.The local "Moms Demand Action" meet every second Wednesday of the month 
at the NSB library at 5:30.
Spotlight on New Member


CUUC welcomed Michele Moen as a new member of our Congregation on September 29th.  Michele has been coming to our church for quite some time.  She has helped us with our butterfly garden as well as been leading the Book Club. Here is a brief biography on Michele.

Michele grew up in a small rural town in Vermont. As a girl, she vacationed with her family in Florida and knew that one day she would escape to The Land of Flowers. She made it part way (North Carolina), turned in the wrong direction (ending up in Vermont again) but eventually found her way to S. Florida where she posted an ad in a singles mag for a man who loves animals and nature. The ad was answered by her soul mate and future best friend, Las Moen. They recently drove to St Augustine and celebrated 25 years together. Las is Norwegian but is sure he is a reincarnated Seminole Indian.

17 years ago they built a house on ten acres in Volusia and there they raise their family of three horses, two dogs, four chickens and a  sassy girl goat.

Michele loves books and sharing thoughts about them with open minded intellectuals of the sort found at CUUC.

She also loves her huge garden and all the interest and life it supports.

Las and Michele love to travel. Their 2020 planned trips are Costa Rica, Monument Valley, Maine, NYC and Iceland.

Michele loves CUUC and all the positive people she has met!

Famous Unitarians


Sarah Josepha Hale

Author, Editor

 Sarah Josepha Hale*,was the woman whose 17-year campaign finally convinced Abraham Lincoln to declare Thanksgiving a national holiday.  She was reportedly involved in Unitarian communities. The new national holiday was considered a unifying day after the stress of the American Civil War. Before Thanksgiving's addition, the only national holidays celebrated in the United States were Washington's Birthday and Independence Day.[

She is also known for her book of poems which contained "Mary Had a Little Lamb", although there is some disagreement as to who actually wrote the poem.She was the editor of Godey's Lady's Book, (alternatively known as Godey's Magazine and Lady's Book)  which was an American women's magazine that was published in Philadelphia from 1837 to 1877. It was the most widely circulated magazine in the period before the Civil War. 

During this time, she became one of the most important and influential arbiters of American taste. In its day, Godey's, with no significant competitors, had an influence unimaginable for any single publication in the 21st century. The magazine is credited with an ability to influence fashions not only for women's clothes, but also in domestic architecture. Godey's published house plans that were copied by home builders nationwide.

During this time, Hale wrote many novels and poems, publishing nearly fifty volumes by the end of her life.

For more information on Sarah Josepha Hale and Thanksgiving, please use these weblinks from which I copied the above information.

The second link


Different Observances for the Month of November

and honors the history and culture of Native Americans and indigenous people
in the United States.

November 1 ALL SAINTS’ DAY • Western Christian
Commemorates all known and unknown Christian saints. Eastern Christianity observes it on
the first Sunday after Pentecost.

November 2- ALL SOULS’ DAY • Christian
Commemoration of all faithful Christians who are now dead. In Mexican tradition it is 
celebrated as Dia de los Muertos between October 31 and November 2, and is an occasion
to remember dead ancestors and celebrate the continuity of life.'_Day

November 5- ELECTION DAY-A day set by U.S. law for the election of public officials.

Commemorates the 1938 pogrom against Jews throughout Germany and Vienna.

November 10 MAWLID AL-NABI (Also known as MILAD AL-NABI) • Islamic (Sunni)
The observance of the birthday of Islam founder Prophet Muhammad, which is celebrated
in Rabi' al-awwal, the third month in the Islamic calendar. Shi’a Muslims celebrate it five
days later than Sunni Muslims.

November 11 VETERANS’ DAY
Honors military veterans and the U.S. Armed Services.

November 12 BIRTH OF BAHÁ’U’LLÁH • Bahá’í
Observance of the anniversary of the birth in 1817 of Bahá’u’lláh, prophet-founder of the
Bahá’í Faith, in Núr, Persia.'u'll%C3%A1h

A very important holiday in the Sikh faith as Guru Nanak Dev’s was the First Guru of the
Sikhs and the Founder of Sikhism. He was born in mid-November; the holiday is celebrated
according to the lunar date.

November 15 MAWLID AL-NABI (Also known as MILAD AL-NABI) • Islamic (Shi’a)
The observance of the birthday of Islam founder Prophet Muhammad, which is celebrated
in Rabi' al-awwal, the third month in the Islamic calendar. Sunni Muslims celebrate it five
days earlier than Shi’a Muslims.

November 15- Nativity Fast  begins- Eastern Orthodox
The Eastern fast runs for forty days in preparation for the Nativity of Jesus

Emphasizes the dangers of intolerance and is a call to action for the advancement of
human welfare, freedom and progress everywhere, as well as a day to encourage tolerance,
respect, dialogue and cooperation among different cultures and peoples.

Celebrates public education and honors individuals who are making a difference in
ensuring every child in the U.S. receives a quality education.

November 20 -TRANSGENDER DAY OF REMEMBRANCE Memorializes those who were killed due to anti-transgender hatred or prejudice.

November 26- DAY OF THE COVENANT • Bahá’í Day of the Covenant is a festival observed to commemorate Bahá’u’lláh’s appointment of His son, Abdu’l-Baha, as His successor.'%C3%AD)

November 26- Christ the King Fast-Christian-Roman Catholic
November 28 -THANKSGIVING DAY Following a 19th century tradition, it commemorates the Pilgrims’ harvest feast in the autumn of 1621. It is considered by some to be a "national day of mourning," in recognition of the conquest of Native Americans by colonists.

November 30 St. Andrews Day-Christian-  Saint Andrew is represented in the New Testament to be the disciple who introduced his brother, the Apostle Peter, to Jesus as the Messiah.'s_Day

This list of observances was taken from "The Calendar of Observances" from the Anti Defamation League.
as well as Religious Holidays from Religious Life Princeton University

Book Club books for the next three months are:
November-Beneath the Ruthless Sun-Gilbert King
December- In Pieces- Sally Field
January-Shortest Way Home- Pete Buttigieg

This way you can plan ahead as some of the books are very popular.


Beneath a Ruthless Sun: A True Story by Gilbert King (historical fiction) 2018,  NAMED

Beneath a Ruthless Sun tells a powerful, page-turning story rooted in the fears that
rippled through the South as integration began to take hold, sparking a surge of virulent
racism that savaged the vulnerable, debased the powerful, and roils our own times still


In Pieces by Sally Field (autobiography) 2018

In this intimate, haunting literary memoir and New York Times Notable Book of the year,
an American icon tells her own story for the first time -- about a challenging and lonely
childhood, the craft that helped her find her voice, and a powerful emotional legacy that
shaped her journey as a daughter and a mother.


Shortest Way Home: One Mayor's Challenge and a Model for America's Future
by Pete Buttigieg

Once described by the Washington Post as “the most interesting mayor you’ve never
heard of,” Pete Buttigieg, the thirty-seven-year-old mayor of South Bend, Indiana, has
now emerged as one of the nation’s most visionary politicians. With soaring prose that
celebrates a resurgent American Midwest, Shortest Way Home narrates the heroic
transformation of a “dying city” (Newsweek) into nothing less than a shining model of
urban reinvention.
Dana Jacobsen is our Newsletter Editor.  Please send articles to
her at with the subject lin "for Cuuc newsletter".
Small Ways to Help CUUC!
If you shop at, a portion of your expenditure can go to a non-profit of your choice.  Go to and designate Community Unitarian Universalist Church and we'll see monetary rewards trickle in!

Also, at, our church is listed.  This is a fabulous new compendium of hundreds, if not more, of online vendors.  You can get ANYTHING here, and the vendors will send us a portion of the price you pay.  If we get two more orders in the next 5-6 weeks, they'll give us $50 for joining!   Sign in as, password cuuc1234.

Connie Baker

We are now on Ebay

We have sold over $1,400.00 in donated items.  Share our items for sale with
friends.  New items added daily.

We are still accepting donations.  
Bring them to church or drop off at Sharon's home.

Items should not be too large.  See Sharon for details.
CUUC's phone number is:

(386) 308-8080
Check out our Facebook page!
Want to know who our guest speaker will be? Like us on Facebook.  
Our president, sends a weekly invite that contains upcoming
service information. Please take the time to write a
Facebook review.  Let others know how great our
congregation is! 


Smile Program at Amazon

Click below to get started each time you shop at Amazon and the church will then receive
a portion of each purchase you make at  Please share with friends and family.  
There is no cost to the shopper.  This is a great way to help the church accomplish goals
and help others.  

Or link below


Deadline for the December Newsletter

is November 20th.


Click on and select the
date of this newsletter for a printable version .  That PDF file has
been modified to be viewed in print format. If your newsletter
goes to your promotion folder in Gmail, you can manually move
it to the primary folder.


Community Unitarian Universalist Church
403 West Street
New Smyrna Beach, 32168

(386) 308-8080

Mailing Address:
P. O. Box 238063
Port Orange, FL 32123

Copyright © 2015 Community Unitarian Universalist church, All rights reserved.

unsubscribe from this list    update subscription preferences 

Copyright © 2015, All rights reserved.

Our mailing address is:
P. O. Box 238063
Port Orange, FL  32123 

unsubscribe from this list    update subscription preferences 

Email Marketing Powered by Mailchimp