Leader or Bossy?
When your child is with peers, is she usually in charge? Or is she a follower that permits others to determine what game is played and what the ground rules are?
If you look up leaders in the dictionary, examples will include conducting an orchestra, a military commander, or even a lead or guide dog in a sled pack. What is the common thread in these types of leaders? All of them describe someone who motivates others to perform for the good of the team. Leaders do not accomplish great things by ‘throwing their weight around’; instead, they inspire people allowing things to harmonize.
So, if we want our children to be positive leaders, what are some things we need to instill in them. We can teach our child to be a better listener than a talker. By listening to others and responding to them in appropriate ways will help your child earn respect.
Encourage dialogue with your child by asking her to give examples of whom she considers good leaders in her life. What is it that makes them easy to follow? In addition, discuss ways the person in charge brings about good results. The opposite end of the spectrum needs to be looked at also. How do people abuse authority, and how does that action bring negative results?
Talk about how your child can ‘let her light shine’ to positively influence others by doing the right thing even in difficult circumstances. Many times in the business world, this characteristic is noticed and brings favorable results. The power of persuasion and how to influence others would go with this topic.
Ask your child if she is comfortable making decisions that affect others? Remind her to be open to the suggestions of others.
Finally, discuss with your child what Jesus meant when he said, “As I have loved you, so you must love one another” (John 13:34). Is it important that your child is a leader all the time? No. There are many times when we follow the lead of others. However, there are many circumstances that your child will encounter where leadership is necessary.